Things guys should know about dating
See Post #2 for the male’s perspective on this one! The worst thing you can do to get us to calm down, is to tell us to relax.
In fact, there’s probably no other word that could get us more riled up!
Kind words, meaningful touch, small acts of service- your love is best communicated in the details. Growing up with all brothers conditioned him to the idea that tears equal sadness- so seeing my tears of anger, excitement, frustration and joy took some getting used to.
When my husband walks in the door with a beautiful flower he picked along the way, it melts my heart more than 10 dozen roses ever could- because he thought of me in the most unexpected moment. And that’s not to mention “that time of month” tears, “just having one of those days” tears, and “I have no idea why I’m crying” tears.
Whether it’s “relax” or some other hot button word- remember to always handle us with care. The truth is, we were made to nurture, but in marriage and in healthy relationships, that nurturing needs to be played out in the context of a give-and-take relationship. We want to give, but we also need to feel that we’re receiving.
We want to be able to take care of our man, but just as much, we want to feel that he’s taking good care of us. We think a man’s most attractive quality- is his heart.
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Debra Fileta is a Professional Counselor, national speaker, and author of the book True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life.There’s no concept I’ve had to explain more as a Marriage Therapist than this one right here.A simple, “Sounds like you’ve had a really hard day” goes so much farther than, “Here’s what you should do to make it better”. You’ve gone out a few times, you’ve established an obvious rapport and you’re trying to figure out if there’s something special between you.It’s a big turning point in a (potential) relationship and there’s a lot you should know about a guy by then, especially these things.